Where is Your Focus?
For the past few years I have gotten up at 4:20am every Tuesday and Thursday morning in order to meet with a group of women to run. We meet at a designated location and we … run. The number in the group fluctuates – sometimes there are 3-4 and sometimes there are 15+. Different ages, different paces, common goal. The only thing that stops us is inclement weather (i.e. temps drop below 30 degrees or if it’s raining).
We may all have different specific goals: weight loss, get healthier, training for a race, etc. but the overall mission is the same: to have a better quality of life.
I can’t imagine doing anything else on a Tuesday or a Thursday morning. It’s a habit now. It’s a lifestyle now. I started running many years ago in order to keep my mind busy after a breakup and over the years I stopped and started but for the most part I was consistent. It was when I started training for my first half marathon that the stops stopped and I became focused.
For those of you that don’t know, training for a half marathon is hard but I stuck with it and ran my first half on April 14, 2018. My first and my last. I was glad that I accomplished what I set out to do but I know my limits. So, even though I have no plans to run another half marathon, during this process I rediscovered my love for running and fitness. I should mention that at this time I had already been a certified trainer and fitness specialist for four years, I had competed as a figure competitor and I had started a business but part of me had lost some of my passion.
Sometimes that happens. Even though my passion had diminished somewhat, my lifestyle had already changed, and I was still a runner and still a #fitchick. That was never going to change. What also hasn’t changed is my desire to share my passion with other women of a certain age who want a better quality of life.
Through this journey I have learned so many lessons and the most important lesson is that there are two things that turn an action into a lifestyle. Those two things are consistency and patience. In the 21st century no one wants to wait for anything but I’m telling you, if you are currently in an unhealthy state you need patience. You did not gain 40-50-60lbs overnight and you will not lose it overnight. You have to be consistent and you have to be patient. These are non-negotiables.
Patience is hard … I get it. But dealing with it doesn’t have to be. When you have a goal, you want to reach it quickly, but what you need to do is take the immediate focus off of the end goal and put your laser focus on what is the next step that will get you there. I know everyone says that you have to keep your eyes on the goal. Even the Bible says in Philippians Chapter 3 that we are to press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Which means keep your eyes on the prize or the end goal and never forget your “why”. And that is 100% true, however, it is equally important to also focus on the next baby step that is going to get you to that prize. Then the next baby step after that and the step after that and so on and so forth. Consistency and Patience!
For example, when my goal was to run the half marathon, I didn’t start out running 13.1 miles on day one. One day one I focused on running 3 miles, then 5 miles, then 6 miles and so on until I reached 13.1. And I’m telling you once you learn to be consistent the patience happens automatically.
Consistency and patience work hand in hand. Don’t give up. You got this!