Welcome to November. We have reached the fourth quarter of the year. Not only are we less than two months away from the end of the year but we are also less than two months away from the end of a decade.
Think about that for a minute. Another ten years gone.
If you are “of a certain age” like me, then you may tend to get more reflective as the years pass. It usually happens for me around my birthday – which was last month. Somewhere along the line I realized that I have more years behind me than I have in front of me. I don’t know about you but for me, that means that every year that I have left – every month, every week and every day – have to count. They have to matter.
A new year, 2020 is fast approaching and I think back to the beginning of 2010 and how much my life has changed over the last ten years and I think about how much I want it to change in the next ten years.
My life was completely different in 2010. I was getting out of a 7-year relationship that was toxic and emotionally abusive. In the last decade I had to do some serious work (mental, physical and spiritual) to recover from that. During that time, I got my health on track, became a fitness trainer and professional figure competitor. I joined a new church and deepened my relationship with God. I also started seeing a therapist.
What I have learned in the last decade is that real change does not happen overnight. It is a process. Whether you are wanting to make changes in your physical fitness, mental fitness or spiritual fitness it is going to take time if you want those changes to last your lifetime. And the process is ongoing. I hope I never “reach the destination”. In other words, I don’t ever want to get to the point where I think I’ve arrived. I always want to be in a position where I am receptive to learning. That is where true change and growth reside.
My hope for this next decade is not only continued learning and growth but also to be instrumental with assisting others on their own journeys of self-discovery. We were not meant to walk through life alone. We all need help and it is the strongest of us who are not afraid to ask for it.
What are your hopes for 2020? What is your vision for this next decade? More importantly, what are you doing to get there?