I first wrote this article in 2016, I recently came across it again and felt it bared repeating:
One small compliment goes a long way. Have you ever noticed that when someone pays you a sincere compliment how it just changes your whole outlook? Or the look on someone’s face when you are the one giving the compliment? Compliments are easy. They don’t cost a thing and they make the giver and the receiver feel so good. That is, if you are able to receive (and give) compliments.
I used to be a person who couldn’t receive compliments. I’m sure there is some deep, dark psychological reason why but I don’t care to investigate the why behind it. I just know that part of me didn’t really believe that I was worthy of the compliment. Finally, someone said to me, “just say thank you”. So I did.
Now I find myself giving and receiving compliments all the time and doing so keeps a smile on my face.
Recently, I was having a conversation with a new client at the wellness center. I had just finished her assessment and we were chatting about scheduling her personal training sessions. As we spoke to each other I noticed she was looking at me in a strange way – like there was something that she wanted to say but wasn’t sure how to. At the end of the conversation she asked me how old I was.
She smiled this huge smile and said that she would have guessed maybe early 40s. She explained that it was just so hard to tell because I had an heir of maturity but still looked quite young. She herself was 60 (and didn’t look it) and told me that I should be very proud of myself and that she was glad that her trainer was a real woman.
A real woman.
I like that. I can’t say that I am 100% sure what she meant but I love the idea of being thought of as “real”. I’m grateful that she saw something in me that translated as real.
I love being able to interact with people in this way. It’s interesting to me because I am 100% introvert but when I have the opportunity to work with someone and help them to improve their fitness level and they actually receive it – there is nothing better.
I love the fact that there is no “one-size-fits-all” in fitness. Different things work for different people and there are no absolutes. Yes, there are general concepts that work for most people (e.g., weight loss = calories out > calories in) but if a person has specific goals general concepts aren’t always the answer.
That’s where I come in. I enjoy talking to people to really get to the nitty-gritty of what they really want. I don’t want to rush it which is why I cannot and will not provide a quick fix. I don’t do quick because quick doesn’t last. I work on behaviors which lead to permanent changes. I know that philosophy is not popular or sexy and that’s okay because it’s honest and I sleep like a baby at night knowing that I never gave bad advice to someone just so I could make a dollar.
Maybe that’s what makes me a real woman.